Hobbies and the resistant child: helpful hints on how to avoid the battle

We’ve all been there. Your independent toddler’s exerting her independence and refusing to participate in the activity you spent hours researching and coordinating schedules to be able to attend.

But experts say that’s all part of the process.

“Every child has something he loves to do and is talented in, so keep digging!” said Lamice Joujou, founder of Dent de Lait – Eco Children’s Center in Beirut. “Don’t give up. If it’s not karate, chess, or Zumba because these are trending, it might be horseback riding or coding.”

“Discipline is taught by sticking to an activity a child has shown interest [in] but might be lazy to work or rehearse for,” Joujou said. It doesn’t come from dragging them “to some ballet class they don’t feel they belong to.”

Parents should know that the first time a child tries an activity isn’t the most important indicator because they usually won’t be at ease due to a change in environment, according to Christelle Fakhoury, co-founder of C2C, the Lebanon-based kids’ event organizer. Let them try at least two or three times to discover what it’s all about.

“You should always try to motivate them and let them experiment with what’s out there in the world,” she added, whether that’s sports, acting, art, anything that develops their mental and physical capacities.

Things to consider when choosing an interest are the type of skills the child will acquire and how those will help later in life. Some hobbies have an indirect benefit, Joujou said, like building flexibility, boosting self-confidence, encouraging teamwork, reinforcing fine motor skills, and improving focus. “So, listen to your child’s needs, and choose accordingly,” she added.

Ways to keep children motivated include creating a video that shows their progress or a before and after picture. Attend the class, wait for them outside, or join if possible. And, Joujou said, don’t be afraid to reward discipline.

Lebanon offers a multitude of resources to help kids develop their interests from camps to indoor and outdoor playgrounds and birthday parties. Referred to as “edu-tainment” by Fakhoury, the idea is children will learn educational activities through entertainment.

But the best way to help kids is to “teach by example,” Joujou said, “by listening to different kinds of music with your child, taking them to a basketball game then playing it together, drawing, and painting. Try a wide array of activities and listen to all the cues your child is sending you to be able to channel his talent and support” them.

Nadine is a former financial journalist turned stay-at-home mom, navigating the sleep-deprived journey of motherhood.

Source: jaleesa blog

4 tips for healthy winter skin

This is a guest post by Afkar Barakeh, the mother of a toddler and Beirut-based founder of the Kalpa line of holistic skincare products. 

Skin can be finicky. Its delicate balance is affected by so many elements, and the colder winter weather strips it of its moisture and leaves it looking dry and dull.

I’m the founder of Kalpa, a Beirut-based line of holistic skincare products available online and in stores next month. I’m also a mom dealing with the very specific challenges of parenting in the Beirut winter. I’m happy to share my tips for parents for keeping your family’s skin moisturized and healthy this winter.

Hydrate: Drink lots of fluids. My two-year-old really enjoys a little warm water with lemon in the morning, which can be very refreshing and hydrating at the same time. Keeping your body hydrated will take you a long way in keeping your skin from drying out. 

Tip: adding a pinch of unrefined sea salt or pink Himalayan salt to your daily water helps to protect the delicate balance of minerals in your body, avoid excess water retention, and prevent premature aging.

Use natural oils to seal in moisture: Contrary to popular belief, natural oils and butters do not encourage the body to produce more oil. In fact, high quality oils can actually help balance your skin’s oil production. Our organic baby massage oil (which I’ve admittedly used myself) is naturally high in essential fatty acids that deeply nourish the skin, leaving it hydrated and healthy. Other alternatives like jojoba oil, sweet almond oil, and apricot oil are widely available and great for hydration.

Learn your ingredients: Some over-the-counter creams and lotions have petroleum-based ingredients, synthetic fragrances, and a long list of preservatives that will not only further dry your skin in the winter months, but are also very toxic for your health. It’s certainly something to keep in mind for pregnant or nursing women or for those with young children. Go for an oil-based rather than a water-based solution, as it’s more likely to help your skin retain moisture in the winter.

Use a humidifier: Think about rehydrating the air. Because the air during the winter is colder and drier, the skin is unable to stay as supple as it can during warmer months. A humidifier can be very helpful in making the air less dry and less harsh for your skin, but make sure you replace the water in your humidifier daily so bacteria and mold don’t grow, which can make you very sick.

Tip: If your child is prone to nosebleeds due to dryness, apply a thin layer of pure unrefined shea butter around their nostrils before bedtime.

Eat plenty of healthy fat: No skin care advice is truly complete without a proper look at nutrition. Healthy fats play an essential role in skin health because fat makes up the outside layer of all the cells in your body. This layer incorporates dietary fats and helps make your skin more resistant to cold dry weather, by allowing it to retain more moisture and to stay smoother and suppler. I recommend nourishing animal fats like butter, ghee, and fish oils; and plant-based fats like coconut oil and olive oil.

 

Source: jaleesa blog